I had this exact conversation with my counselor today about my scramble. I tend to drop references to visiting all 7 continents, surfing in the Arctic, or that "I jump off buildings, mountains, and airplanes" into conversations to feel impressive—as a proxy for feeling wanted.
My therapist asked me to imagine what those same interactions would include if I assumed I was wanted. What would it be like if you believed you didn't need all of that? What would the insecure version of me look like in various social environments?
I divulge all of that to confirm your expertise and affirm your content. Thank you for the gift of convergence!
I had this exact conversation with my counselor today about my scramble. I tend to drop references to visiting all 7 continents, surfing in the Arctic, or that "I jump off buildings, mountains, and airplanes" into conversations to feel impressive—as a proxy for feeling wanted.
My therapist asked me to imagine what those same interactions would include if I assumed I was wanted. What would it be like if you believed you didn't need all of that? What would the insecure version of me look like in various social environments?
I divulge all of that to confirm your expertise and affirm your content. Thank you for the gift of convergence!
thanks for sharing ryan!
Reframing changes everything. Thanks, Mike!
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