The distinction between caring about someone and carrying them is so crucial, yet we confuse it with being a good person. I've noticed how much energy gets burned trying to stabilize other peoples emotional weather instead of just letting them experience their own climate. The air traffic control metaphor is perfect becasue it captures the constant vigilance that feels productive but actually prevents genuine connection. Once I stopped trying to engineer everyones feelings, relationships got way more honest.
This is me!! What a gift to read on Christmas Eve! I need to meditate on this!
The distinction between caring about someone and carrying them is so crucial, yet we confuse it with being a good person. I've noticed how much energy gets burned trying to stabilize other peoples emotional weather instead of just letting them experience their own climate. The air traffic control metaphor is perfect becasue it captures the constant vigilance that feels productive but actually prevents genuine connection. Once I stopped trying to engineer everyones feelings, relationships got way more honest.
Thank you! This is a splendid gift 😃🥰
WOW!!!!!! Like you are living in my head!! Going to need to sit with this one for a while and digest it slowly. Thank you Mike! Powerful stuff!