This is exactly what I need to hear and practice. Is there any place I can get more information? I’ve conveniently stuffed my feelings since I was about 8 years old. Then married into the same scenario and continued the ignoring. I’ve done it so long I’m numb. I often don’t feel anything in a situation, well that’s probably a lie, I’ve just gotten so good at ignoring it. It can take me hours or days and lots of talking or journaling to come to a feeling. Here’s an example my birth parents, who I found about 4 years ago and we developed a relationship of sorts have twice told me they don’t want a relationship with me and I can tell you now, it hurts! It took me a couple of years to get here. I’ve got tears in my eyes right now with pain. It manifests itself in my chest and throat tightening. I seriously was so empathetic towards them and my birth mom in particular I made excuses for them. Well, funny thing is I can see their side because my ex’s parents got pregnant out of wedlock and gave up a baby girl in their teens too and I’ve seen how that family secret has damaged all of them. So I do see their side other side. I know this is probably TMI but this lack of feeling in the moment on my part is something I’m trying to heal.
I read the section on the 90-second emotions to my counselor today. It informed a cathartic moment from my past week.
Second, I don’t know if you’ve seen Rental Family. My therapy session today was about how affected I was by it as someone whose primal question is “Am I wanted?” So freaking good, man.
Thanks for your work and your insight. I can’t help you feel safe, but I hope I can help you know you help others feel safe.
This was beautiful. I need to learn to sit and really understand my emotions and why I’m having them. I liked how you said name them, feel them. It’s a reminder I need to expand my emotional vocabulary. Thank you Mike, you’re amazing!
This was perfect for me today! ! The Lord knew exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Everything was so helpful, from the 90 seconds to the naming it. The hardest part for me is naming the emotion. Like you said…I want to tell the story. I need to grow in that area to be able to process them more quickly as to not spiral down. Thanks again! 😊
This is exactly what I need to hear and practice. Is there any place I can get more information? I’ve conveniently stuffed my feelings since I was about 8 years old. Then married into the same scenario and continued the ignoring. I’ve done it so long I’m numb. I often don’t feel anything in a situation, well that’s probably a lie, I’ve just gotten so good at ignoring it. It can take me hours or days and lots of talking or journaling to come to a feeling. Here’s an example my birth parents, who I found about 4 years ago and we developed a relationship of sorts have twice told me they don’t want a relationship with me and I can tell you now, it hurts! It took me a couple of years to get here. I’ve got tears in my eyes right now with pain. It manifests itself in my chest and throat tightening. I seriously was so empathetic towards them and my birth mom in particular I made excuses for them. Well, funny thing is I can see their side because my ex’s parents got pregnant out of wedlock and gave up a baby girl in their teens too and I’ve seen how that family secret has damaged all of them. So I do see their side other side. I know this is probably TMI but this lack of feeling in the moment on my part is something I’m trying to heal.
I read the section on the 90-second emotions to my counselor today. It informed a cathartic moment from my past week.
Second, I don’t know if you’ve seen Rental Family. My therapy session today was about how affected I was by it as someone whose primal question is “Am I wanted?” So freaking good, man.
Thanks for your work and your insight. I can’t help you feel safe, but I hope I can help you know you help others feel safe.
Love this! Very insightful and inspiring.
This was beautiful. I need to learn to sit and really understand my emotions and why I’m having them. I liked how you said name them, feel them. It’s a reminder I need to expand my emotional vocabulary. Thank you Mike, you’re amazing!
Mike, I just love your clarity in sharing wisdom that takes us deeper into understanding ourselves and relating to God. Thank you.
This was perfect for me today! ! The Lord knew exactly what I needed to hear this morning. Everything was so helpful, from the 90 seconds to the naming it. The hardest part for me is naming the emotion. Like you said…I want to tell the story. I need to grow in that area to be able to process them more quickly as to not spiral down. Thanks again! 😊