I have very few memories from my childhood. Its like my brain has them locked up, or erased them. My primal question is "am I good enough" It was hard to know growing up. There is more an all encompassing feeling of never being sure, rather than memories to support or confirm it. Will keep reading these emails and trying to discover more.
Man. I loved this dispatch, especially the clarity around confusion rather than only trauma being a source. I've had this conversation with my best friend regarding our shared primal question from VERY different childhoods.
I explain the 7 Primal Questions often to friends. I would add one thing to your "no or maybe" framework. I tell folks that sometimes the answer was also a conditional yes. That you had to earn the yes and so now assume you have to earn the yes from others.
This may be a strange question : Can the transition from childhood to adulthood change a person's primal question?
I had a good childhood. My parents were very loving to each other and to us kids. However, I was extremely sheltered. I felt like I grew up in a zoo - constantly cared for with all the essentials, food, water, clothing, etc. - but in a cage where any outside relationships were strictly monitored and some forbidden. I felt safe, too safe. When I left home, it was like I was released on the Serengeti. It was terrifying.
(Before taking your assessment, I figured my primal question was #1, but I got #2 - which does make sense because we didn't have a lot of money and I was told 'no, we can't afford it' to activities, nice clothes, etc. I was not allowed any frivolities, just the necessities.)
I have very few memories from my childhood. Its like my brain has them locked up, or erased them. My primal question is "am I good enough" It was hard to know growing up. There is more an all encompassing feeling of never being sure, rather than memories to support or confirm it. Will keep reading these emails and trying to discover more.
Man. I loved this dispatch, especially the clarity around confusion rather than only trauma being a source. I've had this conversation with my best friend regarding our shared primal question from VERY different childhoods.
I explain the 7 Primal Questions often to friends. I would add one thing to your "no or maybe" framework. I tell folks that sometimes the answer was also a conditional yes. That you had to earn the yes and so now assume you have to earn the yes from others.
This may be a strange question : Can the transition from childhood to adulthood change a person's primal question?
I had a good childhood. My parents were very loving to each other and to us kids. However, I was extremely sheltered. I felt like I grew up in a zoo - constantly cared for with all the essentials, food, water, clothing, etc. - but in a cage where any outside relationships were strictly monitored and some forbidden. I felt safe, too safe. When I left home, it was like I was released on the Serengeti. It was terrifying.
(Before taking your assessment, I figured my primal question was #1, but I got #2 - which does make sense because we didn't have a lot of money and I was told 'no, we can't afford it' to activities, nice clothes, etc. I was not allowed any frivolities, just the necessities.)