Discover Your Unique Gift in Life

Here’s my issue with so much of the self-help advice out there—it’s overly focused on what’s broken, missing, or “wrong” with us.

In our journey toward personal growth, it’s so easy to get caught in the negative.

• “I’m no good at handling conflict.”

• “I need to become better at managing my time.”

• “I wish I could be more confident like everyone else.”

If you’ve ever found yourself stuck in this cycle of self-criticism, you’re not alone. These thoughts creep in quietly, convincing us that we’re falling short.

Here’s my issue with so much of the self-help advice out there—it’s overly focused on what’s broken, missing, or “wrong” with us. It keeps our attention locked on fixing flaws while ignoring something just as important:

The incredible strengths we already have.

Sure, we all have weaknesses, and it’s good to work on areas where we can grow. But what if we spent more time maximizing our incredible strengths? The truth is, you are already gifted in ways that make an extraordinary impact on the people around you.

The problem is we don’t always notice our gifts.

Why?

Because to us, our gifts feel ordinary. They come so naturally to us—like breathing air—that we don’t even realize we’re offering something special to the world. You hardly notice you’re doing it, but for someone else, it’s life-giving.

Whatever your gift, it’s there. It’s unique to you. And when you own it, you can maximize it to bless others over and over again.

Today, I want to help you uncover your unique relational gift—the superpower born from your Primal Question.

Let’s Unpack the 7 Primal Gifts.

Gift #1: The Guardian

The Superpower of Protection
Empowers psychological safety for others and can accurately predict risks.

Guardians instinctively create safe spaces. They’re the friends who notice when someone feels uneasy and act to bring comfort and calm. Think of a Guardian like a lighthouse—watching for storms, guiding others away from danger, and ensuring a sense of security.

If “Am I safe?” is your Primal Question, your gift lies in offering peace of mind to those around you.

Gift #2: The Provisioner

The Superpower of Creating Stability
Creates stable environments (often financial) for others to grow and flourish.

Provisioners excel at building strong foundations, whether it’s creating financial plans, establishing routines, or ensuring emotional steadiness. They are the ones who keep things running smoothly so others can thrive.

If “Am I secure?” is your Primal Question, your gift is the strength to create environments where others feel safe to grow.

Gift #3: The People Pro

The Superpower of the Heart
Possesses exceptional relational skills that make people feel loved and cared for.

People Pros thrive in relationships. They know how to listen deeply, empathize genuinely, and make people feel seen. Whether it’s remembering a small detail or offering a warm hug at just the right moment, they’re masters of connection.

If “Am I loved?” is your Primal Question, your gift is to make others feel cherished and cared for in profound ways.

Gift #4: The Connector

The Superpower of Connection
Gifted at creating followership, connection, and including outsiders.

Connectors have an incredible ability to bring people together. They’re the ones organizing BBQs, inviting the new neighbors over, and making sure everyone feels included.

If “Am I wanted?” is your Primal Question, your gift is creating community and ensuring no one feels left out.

Gift #5: The Maximizer

The Superpower of Winning
Skilled at coaching and challenging others to help them achieve their goals.

Maximizers have a relentless drive for excellence. They push others to do their best, see opportunities others miss, and aren’t afraid to challenge the status quo.

If “Am I successful?” is your Primal Question, your gift is inspiring and equipping others to win.

Gift #6: The Value Creator

The Superpower of Maximizing Value
High achievers who unleash massive value in projects and people.

Value Creators excel at taking things from good to extraordinary. They see details others overlook, ensuring everything they touch is completed with excellence.

If “Am I good enough?” is your Primal Question, your gift is delivering exceptional quality and value wherever you go.

Gift #7: The Visionary

The Superpower of Impactful Purpose
Possibility thinkers who envision a world with endless opportunities to create meaning and impact.

Visionaries think big. They see the potential in everything and inspire others to dream beyond their current circumstances. They’re often found leading nonprofit organizations, movements, or visionary projects.

If “Do I have a purpose?” is your Primal Question, your gift is helping others see the bigger picture and inspiring them to create lasting impact.

Friend, your Primal Gift isn’t just something you have—it’s something the world desperately needs. Once you take ownership of it, you can use it to bless others and create incredible value wherever you go.

Let’s lean into your gift and make a difference together.

Warmly,
Mike